News flash: not everyone is going to like you. I’m a recovering people pleaser, so this is a big one for me — especially considering that as a model, pleasing clients during auditions was the way I made money for years. I literally needed people to like me, and pick me, to pay my bills.

A huge turning point for me was when I was up for a national commercial featuring Sofía Vergara that paid a life-changing amount of money. The client told my agent I was exactly what they were looking for. I went on three callbacks. …

Through my work in front of the camera as a TV personality and model, I learned what it truly means to be confident. (It’s not what you think). The truth is, you already have what it takes. You were born with it. You just need to remember what that feels like.

As a confidence coach, I hold space for my clients to awaken their inner wisdom and guide them back to their fiercest self. I don’t believe it serves any of us to coddle our weaknesses or neuroses when we can choose to honor our greatness instead.

It is our…

There is nothing quite as electrifying or soul satisfying as falling in love and thinking we’ve found a partner to spend our lives with. But what happens when you start to see and feel that this man or woman is causing you more pain than joy and you are already so deeply invested?

I believe relationships are assignments. They bring up all our “stuff.” In other words, you and your significant other will both be triggered, old wounds will come up for the purpose of healing. …

I don’t know about you, but when I compare myself to others I always feel drained, insecure, and unhappy and find myself creating stories about how I’m not good enough. These feelings build stress in my body and leave me unable to operate from a creative, empowered place. When you’re comparing yourself to someone else, you aren’t focusing on yourself and everything you have to offer the world in your own unique way.

So it’s time to make the sometimes-difficult-but-very-necessary commitment to stop comparing yourself to others. The world needs your special gifts. Here are five steps to get you started:

1. Recognize that you’re comparing yourself to others.

The first step in letting go of comparison is to acknowledge you’re doing it. It won’t feel natural to focus only on yourself at first as we’re conditioned to compare ourselves and have others compare us to one another. But by being aware of what you’re doing, you can quickly dissolve any negative thoughts or feelings that may arise. …

We all know that if we want to be physically fit, we have to workout and train our physical muscles through cardiovascular exercises, strength-training, stretching and so on. We also know this takes great discipline, and we can’t just work out sporadically and expect great results.

While much societal emphasis is placed on the importance of having a strong, fit, healthy body, less attention is paid to developing healthy emotional muscles. Self-control over our feelings needs regular exercise to stay strong as well.

Why This Is Important

Have you ever been having a perfectly fine (even wonderful!) day, only to…

We’ve all felt the sting of being let down, frustrated, unfulfilled, or not quite good enough in our lives and relationships. I have been guilty of having unrealistic expectations of others, wanting them to shower me with compliments, approval, and validation, sometimes even trying to control situations or outcomes in an attempt to get what I thought would make me feel good. It was a painful, exhausting way to live.

Studies show that basing our self-worth on external factors is actually harmful to our mental health. One study at the University of Michigan found that college students who base their…

When I think back on my life before I was introduced to energy healing, I picture a hamster on its wheel, feverishly chasing some illusive thing and getting frustrated, exhausted, and depressed when that thing remains out of reach.

I used to think if I just ran harder, faster, and longer, I could have, be, and do anything I wanted. Living and working in an overstimulated city like New York only made matters worse, and I felt as though I was in a constant state of fight or flight.

My nervous system was overwhelmed by the hectic pace I had established for myself. My adrenals were shot, my cortisol levels were off the charts, I felt hot and sweaty even in the winter, and fatigue followed me around like a lost puppy.

I wasn’t happy or at peace in…

Kate Eckman

Author of The Full Spirit Workout. Executive Leadership Coach. Keynote Speaker. InsightTimer Teacher. Broadcast Journalist & TV Personality.

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